Thursday, January 29, 2009
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
- We caught another possum. We catch and release, far away from our home, across busy roads. Randy says if they can find their way back, they can stay. I'm not sure how he knows if it's the same possum. We certainly don't mark them.
- More insurance woes. We started our new insurance and it doesn't appear to be paying for therapy the way we thought it would. So instead of $3.61 it is $25 per session. And we will probably be cut off after 25 visits. At our current rate that will be about mid March. I asked Justin's therapist today if she felt we could cut back and still get benefit and not lose ground. She was confident that we could, and so we will probably cut back to prolong our sessions. If he regresses we can pick back up, but then the rest of the year we would have to pay out of pocket. I think it's somewhere between $100 and $125 per session. More than we want to pay, but we trust that if it's necessary, God will provide.
- I am in the throes of planning Big T's birthday party! It is a Disney Car's theme party. He is very excited. It is a bit tough explaining that while yes, his birthday is not until next month, his party is this month. We got a present in the mail today and he followed me around the house whining about opening the box. "But I REALLY want to open it!" Oh, well if you REALLY want to do it, then it's okay. That is the exception to "no".
- Justin is sleeping like a champ! I decided to start keeping track of his eating and sleeping to see if I could see anything that needed to be changed to help him sleep better, but as soon as I started keeping track, he started sleeping. Apparently the subtle threats worked. I wish I knew how...
- When we started letting Travis sleep without diapers, we still got him up before we went to bed to go to the bathroom to avoid excessive potty accidents during the night. Well, we stopped that on New Year's Eve because we were afraid the fireworks would keep him up. He did great for a while, but he has these spells where every few days he will have 2 or 3 nights of accidents in a row. I got tired of doing laundry, so I made him wear a diaper the other night. He hasn't worn a diaper in about 2 1/2 months, so it was hysterical watching him walk with it on! He kept pulling at it and saying that it felt funny. But no accident. So I let him go without, but told him he had to wash his laundry if he had an accident. So last night I got the call, "Mommy, I pee-peed in my bed!" Why doesn't he ever call Daddy?? So we change the sheets, and it was laundry day today so I caved and didn't make him wash the sheets. But if he has an accident tonight, there will be laundry duty in his future! I think we will go back to waking him before we go to bed to take him to the bathroom.
That's about all. This will be a big weekend: 2 parties!! Travis and SUPERBOWL. We are huge football fans, and Travis was actually due on Superbowl Sunday 2006, but it is my belief that he came early so he could watch the game with us. I told him that I would be watching the game even if I was in labor, so it would do him better to avoid that day. Very thoughtful, wasn't he?
Friday, January 23, 2009
Our yard appears to be on some sort of trail that leads cross country or something, but we have animals that have dug holes under two sides of our fence, and they come through and dig up our yard as they pass through. So Randy set the trap right by one of the holes and the second night we caught the possum. Travis calls it a hippopotamus. Two nights later it was a cat (we let him go right away with a stern warning). And then this morning I was getting dressed for work and I heard banging and I didn't know what it was. Randy said he thought we caught something in our trap. It's almost as good as a birthday present! We are getting our own little zoo going. Travis is quite enjoying it too.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Sunday, January 18, 2009
I am struggling a bit with having a routine. Or not having a routine. Or sometimes wanting a routine and then fighting the constraints of the routine. We have therapy either 3 or 4 times a week, and I am trying to get back to the gym, and I work a couple of days a week. And I want to have some playdates, or do some shopping at places other than the grocery store or Wal-mart. And then there's the regular things like cleaning, laundry, ironing, and cooking meals. I am not sure how to make it all happen. If I cut back on therapy, will I compromise Justin's progress? (Which of course may happen anyway when we get hit with the "medical necessity" clause in our insurance contract.) I want to be a homemaker like God wants me to be, but I also want to plan a great birthday party for Travis when he hits the big 3! I want to contribute to the family (work) but I also want to spend time as a family, with all four of us. The only day that happens now is Sunday, and we have church all morning and small group at night. That leaves nap time that we are together. I don't think sleeping counts as being together!
Is it just a phase that I need to accept and know that it will change as the boys grow? Or is it important to establish the family time and the priority early? I am not certain. I guess it's really just the working mom/stay-at-home mom controversy, with a few more complications.
In some ways for me it boils down to trust. Do I trust that God will do what he promises to do? (Take care of me.) What is my response to that promise? And what does trust look like? Is trusting mean that he will make it possible for me to work? Or do I let go of that safety net and fall into God's arms and let him carry me? I always have more questions than answers. I pray that God will make it clear. Every time I feel like it's time to let go of work, something happens that makes it easier for me to keep going. Now it's just the weeks that are hard. I just thank God for making Travis the way he did. He loves going to therapy and when it's not a therapy day, he is sad. I have amazing friends who take Travis to play and he happily goes with them. I just want the best for my family. I don't want to settle for good, and the best is being in line with God's plan. It's just sometimes hard to hear what God is saying when what I want is screaming in my head!
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Saturday, January 10, 2009
The results: My mom was in town and she got up to go to the bathroom at 6:02 and Travis heard the noise and woke up and started crying, which he doesn't normally do. When I went up to him, he wanted me to stay until the sun turned on. I didn't stay the whole time, but he came out of his room at 6:30 and yelled, "Come see mommy, it's a sun!!! I can get up now?" We'll have to continue our test tonight...
I got in trouble when I got home!
Thursday, January 8, 2009
And after all that, the only good part of pictures was that Justin sat up the WHOLE time. I did pick him up ocassionally, but he never fell over. And here is the picture from home to prove it:
He is up to at least 10 mins. sitting up, and he can even reach for toys without falling over. I am so excited that he can sit up in the bathtub now. The boys were both splashing away tonight. Justin was getting water in his face, but I am not sure if he realized that HE was the one doing it!
Justin is up to 13 lbs, 8 ozs. which puts him in the less than 5th percentile, on the DS chart. The doctor is fine with that because it follows the same line he was at for his last visit. And he is 26 in. long, and again, less than 5th percentile.
The biggest thing was the blood work. I didn't remember the routine 9 mo. blood work from Travis, but it had been a while. "Routine" tests are never feel routine anymore. She said she would have done it anyway though, because of the DS. They did a CBC, to check for leukemia, among other things. (Justin is more prone to leukemia.) And his counts were great! And also an anemia test, for celiac disease (also, a possibility with Justin.) And again, the results were fine. We will have to repeat the tests at 12 months, and also a thyroid test, which will require a blood draw. I am glad that our doctor is up on things. That is what I really wanted, and I am so glad she is what I had hoped her to be.
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Monday, January 5, 2009
- He rolls like a CHAMP! It's actually funny sometimes. To go from his stomach to his back, he puts his arms under him and pushes his butt in the air and turns his head opposite the way he wants to go, and then his body just FALLS that way. And he especially likes to do that when his therapists are trying to get him to do some stomach exercises (like reaching and pushing up on his arms.)
- He got his second tooth today! For real, and it's the mate to the one he has, which is even better. This is weird but, Travis has very weirdly shaped toe nails (they kind of curl down) and they are hard to cut, but Justin has very pretty toe nails. I kind of wonder if Justin will end up with the good genetic stuff from each of us that is not affected by the DS and Travis will get all the "bad" stuff. Wouldn't that be odd?
- Justin can sit for about 3-5 mins. His stamina is great, when he's not tired. Otherwise he folds himself in half and cries and pulls his socks off. I know I put is left sock on today at least 25 times. Not even kidding.
- We are working on "supported standing", and he is pushing as he stands. At first it took two of us to keep his feet on the floor, his legs straight, and his head up. If we lost focus, he would pull his legs up and he was just hanging in the air. Very funny!
- Also, we are working on kneeling for crawling. This is SO hard to do when 1) He is tired and 2) The person who is holding him only has 4 limbs (pretty much every person I know!) To do this a person must 1) be on their knees 2) face him away from you 3) use your knees to hold his knees together 4) support his chest with one hand 5) use the other hand to keep both of HIS hands on the ground (you see how you need more than 4 limbs, and they are all in use!) When he is tired he wants to suck his thumb, so he lifts one hand, and we are still holding a lot of his weight, so sometimes we don't notice that one of the hands is not down. And while he prefers his right thumb, his left will do if you take away the right!
- His hand strength is improving. He doesn't hold toys for very long, but the teething is making him WANT something in his mouth, which helps our goals. He would like for me to hold a toy in his mouth FOR him, but I won't, he has to do it himself. And he can transfer a toy from one hand to the other, and sometimes reach across midline for a toy.
- He is eating a bunch! And the people who haven't seen him for a while can tell that he has grown. Today I finished feeding him and he cried and I could tell that he was wanting MORE. We are working on signs, but I got the message without the gesture. Travis has "more" and "all done" down pat, but Justin not so much.
We got word that insurance has a limit of 60 visits per calendar year, which at our current rate will last for 6 months. I am not sure if we want to cut back to extend our insurance, or risk the appeal process to get extra therapy for medical necessity. To me it's no-brainer, but it seems that's what the insurance company has. Just kidding! I am so thankful for insurance, after the bills for heart surgery and for the synegis shot! Yikes!
Justin has been driving his car and he is a very laid-back driver. The material is slick and he slides down until he is like this.
And then Travis took it for a spin:
Saturday, January 3, 2009
So what to say about 2008? Would you laugh at me or think I am crazy if I said that 2008 was the best year ever? In some ways I think it was. We welcomed another sweet little boy and having him made me love all my boys (including Randy!) so much more. Our family is growing stronger and better with age. God is teaching us. I learned more in 2008 than in several previous years and I am looking forward to what is coming in 2009. I don't want this growth and maturing to stop. There are new goals, new challenges, but more than that, it's new ways to internalize and embrace God's eternal promises. It is a reassuring comfort knowing that while people change, God never does. His strength, his purposes, and his promises are as true as they were 2,000 years ago. That astounds me! All I know on earth is change. The seasons change, jobs change, people change, I change. But my rock and my foundation never change. Sometimes it's difficult to get me head around something so big. But God says it's true and I know I can believe what God says. I have experienced it. I have felt it. I think I go through different steps to learn something. I need both heart and head to believe something. I have done lots of head and heart learning this year.
That's what makes it such a great year. When I feel like I am a different person than the one who began the year (for the better!) it is a great year. I don't need more stuff, or more earthly security, or even perfect health. If God's work is being done in me that is all that matters. Whatever comes in 2009 will not all be happy and pleasant. And it won't be easy, but it will be God's plan, and that makes it a good year already.
Thursday, January 1, 2009
First they had to remove the old baseboard.
Then fix some dry wall.
And then cut new pieces.
Randy even let him drill! I didn't get a picture of this, but I heard it was GREAT!